DON'T BE SHY. GIVE UP IN A MINUTE

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 DOW G

Who is not shy? If you conduct a survey, I assume, you will find that 85 percent of your respondents would reply that they feel shy in certain situations. The rest, the 15 percent, would lie to you. Everyone feels shyness at least for a moment depending on situations. 

I'm a very shy person. I encountered lots of problems in my life. I can say to you, my shyness almost ruined my life. I avoided many life changing events due to shyness. Even I hesitated to meet people who could help me. During my student life I felt shy among my classmates and teachers. I felt awkward participating in group activities. 

Suddenly I realized my shyness was the big impediment to success. I could not do anything except pray to God, but it was futile. 

Now I'm able to control it up to an extent not fully. I feel I'll soon overcome it. I find out the root causes of shyness:

1.      Excessive self-sensitive: Am I looking by someone? What to do now? Can I move my hands? What is my sitting position? Can I change it? Should I look in that direction? These types of questions arise and the person who goes through these can realize how embarrassing and awkward the situation is to him. I gave up trying to control myself. Let it go as usual. But it is difficult. 

2.      Fear of rejection: I always felt I may be rejected. Then what may happen? Now I don't care about anybody's acceptance or rejection. I just keep focused on why I am there. It really works. 

3.      Image consciousness: If you care about your image excessively then shyness automatically comes. I know who I am. What my image is. Therefore, I shun being careful about my image. 

4.      Fear of judgment: By nature, men are judged by their works. If I do good work I'm a good person. 

I can't always be good to all. I now don't fear judgments or opinions of people. I do whatever I want to do. If I'm caught of my shyness or anything else, it doesn't matter to me. Before judging me I'll judge you. That's all. 

5.                  Inferiority complex: It's also one of the primary causes for many for being shy. Inferiority complexes may arise from differences between intellect, wealth, caste, creeds, region etc. Break these barriers. Nothing is permanent. 

These are the major root causes of shyness in a person. I've gone through it. You too can overcome it. After understanding the issues, my social position has changed and I can do everything necessary. 

I'm not imperfect! I'm also a creation of God. I'm created beautifully as other creations of God. Why do I need to be shy! 

Some people can hide shyness. But in my case it was different. I was immediately caught at my facial expression which begets my shyness. In some situations my shyness became so intense that I left the event halfway. 

Always remember that you are not only the person who is undergoing shyness. The man or woman next to you may feel more shyness. Think about them and overcome it. 

 

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